Are You In Control?

Control is a double-sided sword. Angela shows us how this plays out in our daily lives.

Angela desperately craved certainty in everything she did. At work, she told colleagues how to do their job and always had the right answer. Her colleagues got frustrated that they couldn’t present their own solutions to company problems and felt boxed in by her.

At home, Angela ordered her husband and kids around like they were robots, ready to do anything at her command. They thought this was the only way to keep her happy, yet inside they called her a dictator. Angela got super mad and yelled at her kids for not putting the toys back in a certain way since the toys only fit back in a bin in a particular order. Yet the kids thought they were doing a good job for putting the toys away without being asked. The kids said, we just can’t win.

Over time, she could feel the tightness in her shoulders and every joint of her body. She even realized at night when she went to sleep her whole body was tense and contracted.

One day it all blew up.  Angela was given a warning at work that most of her employees had given their notice in one week. When she discussed this with her husband, he said, well, this is how we feel at home too, here’s separation papers.

In shock, Angela took a step back.

Over the next 3 months, Angela made some major changes. She realized the only person she can control is herself. Instead of acting out in opposition, she learned to respond, not react. Angela changed her attitude from “my way or the highway” to asking others for their perspectives and their solutions. She also saved her marriage and her ability to connect with her kids.

Where can you let go of control of others or situations? Where can you regain self-control?

It’s time to gain self-control and let go of controlling others.

 

Wishing you an abundant, joyful and prosperous day!

Lora Polowczuk
Chief Energy Officer
© Courageous Path LLC

Do You Waste Your Most Precious Resource?

Dahlia spent Earth Day cleaning up garbage in a local park. She wondered why people would throw their trash into a beautiful garden and park. Yet, she also realized how this paralleled in her own life. Dahlia has big dreams and she wondered why she wasn’t accomplishing them faster.

She got still and sat on a park bench to think. 

Where was she wasting her time?

Dahlia spent too much time complaining about a toxic relationship she was in. She decided it was time to end it.

She recognized that she walked into work with a bad attitude and dreading the day. She decided that every morning she would wish an employee a good day and engage in positive conversation.

Dahlia noticed that she spent too much time watching YouTube videos, and going down the rabbit hole of the internet. Instead, she decided to reach out to a friend each day and make real connections.

How do you spend your time? Wallowing in distraction or a bad attitude or spending it on what’s most important to you?

What we give our time to dictates what’s important to us.

“Where attention goes, energy flows” – James Redfield

Wishing you an abundant, joyful and prosperous day!

Lora Polowczuk
Chief Energy Officer
© Courageous Path LLC

What Would Happen If You Dreamed Bigger?

Have you ever seen the video of the feeble elderly woman who lifts an entire car when her grandson gets hit by a car? It’s unbelievable! What did it take for a feeble woman to lift a one ton car? Belief she could do it.

Too often our own mind gets in the way. We fail once and never want to do it again. We’re afraid of what people may say. We hesitate to move at all even though we don’t enjoy where we are. We let negative past situations enjoy the amazingness of the present moment.

 

If you knew you would not fail, what project would you take on? What dream would you go after?

 

Thomas Edison had 1000 unsuccessful attempts before creating the first light bulb. How would our world be different today without this invention?

An Olympic athlete believes they will cross the finish line first. They imagine themselves standing on top of the podium receiving the medal. They imagine if they trip, how they will bounce back and run faster.

Believe it can happen. That’s the first step. Then, take small steps each day towards accomplishing this goal.

The biggest part to remember is to believe you can figure out how to get there.

You are unbelievable. I believe in you. Do you?

 

Wishing you an abundant, joyful and prosperous day!

Lora Polowczuk
Chief Energy Officer
© Courageous Path LLC

Why The Little Things Matter More

Ever wonder why you can brush your teeth every morning but can’t get that one email out the door or lose those pesky 5 pounds?

We focus on the big outcome instead of the little things. We easily react in fury and anger when our significant other doesn’t do something for us. Yet, at the same time, do we tell them what makes us happy? Do you ask your significant other for what you want on a weekly or monthly basis? Maybe it’s as simple as a take out meal once a month so you don’t have to cook. But, then you blow up at your significant other for never doing anything for you. Yet, you never asked for what you want.

How does this translate at work? Your projects are boring. It’s the same monotonous project every single time. Your boss thinks you love it as you nail the project on time, and in budget each time. Yet, you’re drowning in boredom. You want to pull your hair out. All you want is a project that is challenging, new, and fun. Yet, you never ask for it. At the end of the year, you realized you gained 20 lbs out of boredom and can’t figure out why.

It’s the little things you do each day that turn you into the person you want to become and create the reality you want. We get frustrated at the bigger outcome but don’t realize it’s what we do every day that leads to the bigger outcome.

Do you have a big dream but can’t make any strides on moving it forward? You may doubt yourself. You may be afraid to fail. You may wonder if it’s really worth the time and effort even though it makes your heart sing. But, the big question is – Do you let others know what your dream is, how to support you or do you keep it all to yourself thinking it will magically happen? When you tell people, the world, what you want, the universe will conspire to make it happen.

Are you willing to make small steps each day towards what you really want? Will you make this a habit just like you brush your teeth everyday?

Small steps every day lead to big gains over time.

Imagine how an hour a day on a specific project will progress with 365 hours over the course of a year.

It will advance you immensely.

The time to start is now.  

Wishing you an abundant, joyful and prosperous day!

Lora Polowczuk
Chief Energy Officer
© Courageous Path LLC

It’s Time to Clear Out the Weeds and Reset Your Garden of Success

The dark winter nights are erupting into beautiful warm spring days. The first 3 months of 2018 have come to a close. This chapter is done. The big questions is, Where are you now compared to January 1, 2018?

Are you still in the rat race and going through the motions? Or, have you made noticeable progress? Have you even taken the time to notice? Yes, this is a hard conversation to have. The cool part is – you only have to do this with yourself.

When I did this last year, I had to make some tough decisions. I had to identify where my time was spent and if my time was spent on activities that were meaningful to me. Upon this assessment, I realized I spent too much time serving on too many non-profit leadership boards. I also recognized I had gaps in knowledge for my business. While difficult, this reprioritization freed up significant time to focus on what I love versus giving for the sake of giving and draining myself in the process.

Now it’s your time! Pull out pen and paper and journal about the following:

  •        What’s working well in your life, career, and relationships right now?
  •        What’s not working right now?
  •        What habits can you change?
  •        Who do you need to become to make this happen?

Spring is about removing the weeds before they overtake your garden. If you’ve ever pulled up a dandelion weed, you know how deep the root is. It’s not about trimming off the top. Old habits are deep rooted. Cut off the root and the whole weed dies. How does this translate into real life?

Where do you need to declutter? A messy office. A disorganized closet. Old stuff you’re keeping around that you haven’t used for years? Too many projects?

By eliminating what’s no longer wanted, you can create the open space you want to thrive and attract opportunities that do serve you. What do you want to nourish, grow, and flourish?

On June 30, 2018, I want you to have a different story. I want you to thrive. I want you to grow and expand your capabilities.

It’s spring and it’s time to weed out what no longer serves you and instead nourish what you truly want.

Wishing you an abundant, joyful and prosperous day!

Lora Polowczuk
Chief Energy Officer
© Courageous Path LLC

From Chaos to Enjoyment

Do you thrive in chaos? Or, do you feel your life is a constant state of chaos?

If you thrive on chaos, you’re tied to the result. It’s the rush from closing a deal, negotiating that big contract, and operating under pressure to get things done. A deadline gives us the necessity to do something in a certain timeframe. We’re willing to take care of it at all costs. It’s exciting. It can be fun. The part that’s missing is that, there is usually no celebration. There’s no demarcation line to say, “Hey, we did it.” We typically rush to the next thing. The next big client. The next big project.

We forget to take it all in, be grateful for the opportunity, and reap the rewards for a job well done. When we lack celebration of the milestones in our lives, at work, and even our relationships, there is no acknowledgement or validation of all the hard work and effort we put into something.

When was the last time you celebrated a big milestone at work? An anniversary with your lover or even a long friendship? When we don’t celebrate, we take for granted everything that has happened.

When we don’t celebrate, we feel that our work and effort goes unrecognized. We then carry this into our next project, or big goal.

Close your eyes. Take a couple deep breaths. Think about everything you have to celebrate today, this week, this month.

It’s time to appreciate you.
It’s time to appreciate who you have become.
It’s time to appreciate all that you have done.
It’s time to appreciate all those who made it happen.
As we end the first quarter of 2018, where have you made great strides? Where can you improve?

By taking time to celebrate your achievements, you enjoy life again. It’s time to share your accomplishments and enjoyment with others.

This week, how can you celebrate and share your many accomplishments with your team, your family, your friends, and those closest to you?

Wishing you an abundant, joyful and prosperous day!

Lora Polowczuk
Chief Energy Officer
© Courageous Path LLC

Self-Sacrifice vs. Self-Responsibility

Jill deemed herself ultra-responsible. Anyone could count on her. She always stayed late at the office to help out a colleague or finish the project deadline. Jill charged up the success ladder and was rewarded well for her ambitions. All seemed good….

Until she realized, her friends never answered her calls to go out for dinner. She recognized she bailed on the last 10 invites. Jill even skipped holidays with family to crank out the big projects. Over the years, Jill gained excessive weight, her joints hurt, she felt like she was going through early Alzheimer’s even though she was only 40. She looked and felt older than she actually was. She felt lethargic, exhausted, and no longer had the zest for life.

One night late at work, her fingers suddenly felt numb. She got concerned and called 911. Jill was having a mini-stroke. She was lucky to catch it in time and recover from it without severe loss of function. While recuperating in the hospital, Jill realized she always sacrificed her own well-being for that of everyone else.  While she considered herself very responsible, she took zero responsibility for her own life.

Jill began a 90 day campaign called Self-Responsibility. Everyday, she would do something for herself. Some days she strolled through a park. Other days she cooked healthy meals for her network of friends. Jill regained her zest for life and planned her first vacation in years. Jill decided that if she wanted to make an impact on the world, she could only do this if she had more energy and zest in her life. Jill took responsibility for her own life and made it a priority instead of putting it on the back burner.

Self-responsibility leads to greater joy, aliveness, and engagement in life.

Where in your life do you self-sacrifice vs take self-responsibility?

What can you change today to take more self-responsibility?  

What’s on your bucket list? How can you make one item on your bucket list happen in the next 90 days?

 

Wishing you an abundant, joyful and prosperous day!

Lora Polowczuk
Chief Energy Officer
© Courageous Path LLC

Do You Want More Time In Your Day? 5 Tips to Be More Effective

How effective are you with your time? This is where it truly begins. Effective means doing the right things. It’s not a measure of how much you get done or how busy you are during the day. Let’s take a closer look.

Donald wakes up every morning, immediately checks his phone, answers emails while on the toilet, opens the front door to grab the newspaper, skims the major headlines, then rushes to take a shower, throws a bagel in the toaster, and dashes out the door to work with a bagel in his mouth. Donald’s heart is racing, his mind is scattered, and all he can think about is what else will land in his email inbox when he arrives at work. Donald scampers through his email, then rushes off to a series of meetings. He comes home at the end of the day depleted and exhausted.

Donald took a quick pause. My chest is really tight. I hope something isn’t wrong. My kids, wife, and team depend on me. I can’t keep living like this. How do I change?

As he walks through his front door, he realized he didn’t even get the one email out to his best client that he really needed to send that day. He sat in frustration, ready for a beer and to tune out the day with tv. He fell asleep on the couch.

He didn’t acknowledge his wife in the morning or even wish his kids a good day at school. Donald barely noticed his team working diligently to please him.

Here are 5 questions to ask yourself to be more effective. 

  1. How do you identify your priorities every morning?
  2. How do you schedule your priorities into your calendar?
  3. What habits make you more effective with your time and energy?
  4. Do you know what you are honoring in each decision you make?
  5. How do you celebrate your successes?

 

Donald went through the motions without ever giving thought to what he was actually doing. He went to meetings without ever scheduling time to get his own priorities done.

Robin Sharma says, “Don’t confuse activity with productivity. Many people are simply busy being busy.”

I want you to be effective with your time and your energy. Those around you want to be with a person who is energized, engaged, and enthused not depleted and exhausted.

 

Wishing you an abundant, joyful and prosperous day!

Lora Polowczuk
Chief Energy Officer
© Courageous Path LLC

The Art of Receiving: Do You Know How?

Most of us work really hard for our relationships, careers, our health, and how we want to impact the world. Yet, sometimes we get really frustrated when things don’t go our way. There is one big thing to consider (especially for women). This is the Art of Receiving. Do you know how to do this?

Jenny always helps everyone else, whether it’s organizing events, helping a friend out, or taking on that extra project at work. She loves helping other people, but she’s starting to feel drained by it all. One day, her best friend Sarah, invited her out to dinner. Jenny didn’t realize it, but it was a surprise party with her best friends. Jenny arrived at the restaurant with a gift for Sarah.

When Jenny walked in, her eyes filled with awe and wonder as her dearest friends gathered to celebrate her recent promotion at work. As Jenny hugged each person, she thought about what she could do for each one in return. How can she give back to that person? Sarah made an announcement to the room and said don’t accept anymore from Jenny. This is her time to receive. Let’s pour into her. Jenny didn’t even know what to do. She didn’t know how to accept love from other people. She sat down, put her hands on her heart and said, I am loved. Jenny looked up with tears in her eyes and whispered, “thank you” to each friend at the party.

While it’s important to not overly take from people, it’s an art to accept and receive from others, whether it’s a small gift, an inviting conversation, or a meal.

What can you do to receive the blessings that the universe is sending your way?

One mantra to say every morning: Why do I give myself permission to receive?

Wishing you an abundant, joyful and prosperous day!

Lora Polowczuk
Chief Energy Officer
© Courageous Path LLC

What Are You Really in Control Of?

After 10 years with the same company, Jill’s last day as a corporate director arrived. She had a knot in her stomach. The layoff package was on her desk for final signature. What could have I done differently, she thought. The house is paid off. The kids are in a good school. Yet, her mind was on edge. Her marriage was a wreck and her kids barely talked to her. Jill’s friends barely remember to invite her to gatherings as she was usually too busy working. All she really wanted was to feel something again and get off the rat race.

As Jill left the brick building, she went for a walk in a nearby park and asked herself, what could I have controlled differently?

Jill realized she lashed out at her team when the project didn’t go right. She ate uncontrollably when project deadlines weren’t met. She had no energy when she came home, and ignored her husband and kids, throwing pizza in the oven for dinner.

It’s time to take back control of what I can control.

I will eat healthy and begin a daily walking program.

I will plan two family days a month to stop the rushing around and spend quality time together.

I will learn how to manage my emotions and learn stress management techniques.

I will say “yes” to fun activities that make me come alive inside.

I will take ownership for the choices that led me down this path. It’s up to me to change my choices.

Three months later, Jill started a new job with a sense of calm and ease. She had sustained energy throughout the day. Her marriage began to blossom and her kids invited her to play cards with them. It was a new day, a new time, a new approach to life.

Jill took the initiative to get still and identify what really wasn’t working. Will you?

Wishing you an abundant, joyful and prosperous day!

Lora Polowczuk
Chief Energy Officer
© Courageous Path LLC