Why do we let others who have more or do it better get to us? Within us, we all want to achieve more and do better. It’s a part of being human. Yet, we beat ourselves up in the process. We compare ourselves to others and this damages us.

Case in point, I was super stoked to do a hike after some of my health conditions improved. Then, I found out a friend did the same hike in a third of the time. I felt like I just couldn’t do it fast enough. Then, the thought came to me. How did I go from being so excited to pushing myself on a hike to suddenly feel bad about it? What perspective was I not looking at?

I started with comparing myself. That turned into a dark rabbit hole of self-doubt and upset my core that I was not performing good enough in the mountains. Yet, I realized this perspective was all wrong.

I recognized that first, the only comparison I could do was to my OWN previous performance. And, the hike one was better than my last. Thus, I was on the upswing and proud of it.

Second, I thought. What can I do even better to get to the level my friend is at. What steps could I begin implementing to get me there? I used it as a motivation tool instead of a put down self tool.

I see this all the time with clients. They compare themselves to a friend that makes more money or takes nicer vacations. Yet, the comparison has nothing to do with them. The ultimate question is,

  • Why is this important to you right now?
  • Where are you currently?
  • Where do you want to be?
  • What type steps do you need to take?
  • What person do you need to be to take those steps?

Think about it. Your life and situation is unique to you. It’s not to live another person’s life. It’s about how you live the life that fits your shoes or the shoes you want to grow into. Apply these questions to any situation when comparison comes up.

Where does this show up in your life? The promotion by a colleague. A more successful friend. A friend who takes exotic vacations. Walk through the above questions to get your answer.

To get rid of comparisons and bring your life to fruition, schedule a strategy call with me.

Wishing you an abundant, joyful, and prosperous day!

Lora Polowczuk
Chief Energy Officer
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